I want to talk about this judgment we carry within us in the realm of grief. For some unknown reason, we really believe we are entitled to pass judgment on how someone grieves. This notion bothers me because I don’t understand why we feel we have any right to an opinion on anyone’s choices. (A…
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Today is Youth Day in South Africa. It is a name I don’t particularly agree with. Especially today. In 1976, black learners in Soweto took to the streets singing Nkosi Sikelel’ iAfrika (the then banned liberation hymn; our present adapted national anthem – yes this is part of why its offensive to defame it, it…
Read MoreHow would I describe my first experience at one of the most prestigious schools in the country? Complex. An experience some of us are still battling within ourselves. It was my parents’ dream to give me a better life than they did; a life free from the hardships they endured. No matter what we went…
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Seeing these riots going on in the U.S, it triggers the mind as a South African. This is a constant in our world and it pains me to see that black people STILL and CONTINUOUSLY, on a GLOBAL LEVEL, continue to scream to be heard. Quiet, private conversation, posts, rallies – no one listens. People…
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Our hidden parts are being unwrapped and we are unravelling. The powerful mind sits on its throne and orders us to act. We act without protection. No place to walk. No people to see. No distraction. No party. No smoke. It orders us to slowly open the parts we’ve made small; tucked away in the recesses. Fear takes…
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Part 1: Where is what you’re feeling coming from? This series is about how I acknowledged the root causes of my reactions, unlearned some bad behaviours, and instead, learned how to deal with myself healthily. I’ve healed a lot, but the healing never stops. And neither does the journey. First off, I truly believe therapy…
Read MoreOne of my best friends and I decided to start a virtual book club and this week we dismantled some pretty deep rooted concepts. We both were looking for a book club but couldn’t find one in our current worlds, so we decided to make our own! I’m a firm believer in bettering yourself through…
Read MoreIt’s been 12 days since lockdown began in South Africa. I’ve been working from home for exactly 16 working days, but I’ve pretty much not left my house for 22 days already. On 16 March, I visited my father at his medical practice (he is a general practitioner) to collect some medication only to find…
Read MoreI am a non-practicing lawyer, but my reasons for studying law have never changed. My spirit for justice runs deeper than an unstitched wound. It’s a long story – the way I came to this – but long story short, I’m now an academic course material developer. I don’t know if it’s getting older, but…
Read MoreI moved cities more than two years ago now, and without a doubt, this move has been the best decision of my life so far. In Johannesburg, I have gained everything I was looking for and more. Independence, accomplishment, love, art, diversity, and family. It was the perfect place to start my journey from scratch…
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