Your expression of grief is valid

I want to talk about this judgment we carry within us in the realm of grief. For some unknown reason, we really believe we are entitled to pass judgment on how someone grieves. This notion bothers me because I don’t understand why we feel we have any right to an opinion on anyone’s choices. (A…

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Youth Day and Transformation

Today is Youth Day in South Africa. It is a name I don’t particularly agree with. Especially today. In 1976, black learners in Soweto took to the streets singing Nkosi Sikelel’ iAfrika (the then banned liberation hymn; our present adapted national anthem – yes this is part of why its offensive to defame it, it…

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The emotional school fees we pay

How would I describe my first experience at one of the most prestigious schools in the country? Complex. An experience some of us are still battling within ourselves. It was my parents’ dream to give me a better life than they did; a life free from the hardships they endured. No matter what we went…

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Things I learned in therapy – Part 1

Part 1: Where is what you’re feeling coming from? This series is about how I acknowledged the root causes of my reactions, unlearned some bad behaviours, and instead, learned how to deal with myself healthily. I’ve healed a lot, but the healing never stops. And neither does the journey. First off, I truly believe therapy…

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Lockdown Diaries – The Harsh Reality

It’s been 12 days since lockdown began in South Africa. I’ve been working from home for exactly 16 working days, but I’ve pretty much not left my house for 22 days already. On 16 March, I visited my father at his medical practice (he is a general practitioner) to collect some medication only to find…

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“Zero Fucks Given” – Rethink It.

I am a non-practicing lawyer, but my reasons for studying law have never changed. My spirit for justice runs deeper than an unstitched wound. It’s a long story – the way I came to this – but long story short, I’m now an academic course material developer. I don’t know if it’s getting older, but…

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